Dealing with disappointment when everything gets canceled …
During this global pandemic, one common thread that affects most people is that things or events get canceled. Sometimes, these events are monumental. Cancellations of birthday parties, retirement parties, graduations, funerals and even weddings seem commonplace today. With each of these situations, disappointment is lurking around the corner. Many of these things can and will be rescheduled, when it is deemed safe. Some things will pass by, gone forever. These situations leave us coping with the feeling of disappointment. Disappointment can look like sadness, anger or hurt. God created us with these big feelings and emotions, and they don’t always feel good, but they do feel real.
It is ok to experience disappointment when you have no control over things and your expectations aren’t met. But the truth of the matter is, we all get to choose how we respond in these situations. God expects his children to always be kind and forgiving, in all life situations. He tells us in Psalm 19:14 that He always wants the words of our mouths to please Him. “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” God also wants us to trust that He is in control and nothing comes to us that isn’t filtered through His hand of love.
“We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.”Proverbs 16:9
Sometimes we face hardships and disappointments that come as a test from God to help us grow in our character. These hard times can grow our faith, our dependence on God and can give us an opportunity to glorify Christ with how we handle these adverse times. Is it fair? Maybe, maybe not. But God has allowed it to happen, so we have a choice now with what we are going to do about it. We can always talk it out. We can talk it out in prayer to God and with our spouse or a dear friend. As God’s children we can always respond to situations in a way that pleases the Father. We must think before we speak. We then need to practice acceptance. It is what it is. How can we make the best of it? What steps can we take to move forward? What does God want us to learn from walking through these difficult days of isolation, cancellations and disappointments? I think we need to extend grace for sure; extend grace to others and to ourselves. We might pray and ask for an alternative plan. I’ve seen so many new and creative ways for people to get past their canceled plans recently. We can cry for a bit, but then we have to move forward with the new plan. God says that “Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.” Psalm 30:5b
It was pointed out to me today that if we can’t get past craving the return to “normal”, maybe “normal” has become an idol in our lives. Let’s embrace the life that God has given us today and live it fully for His glory! Let’s lift our chins up, smile and dig into the business of loving God and loving people, one imperfect day at a time. I love you each and I’m praying for you.
Please use the link below for a special time of worship and Bible study with your children this week.
Also see this activity that can be used to help your child grow in their prayer life.